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Everything you’re about to read is based on my own experience. It may be a personal take on something, a way to cope, or a helpful anecdote. Read on and let me know if there’s anything you’d like me to write about.

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Nov 8, 2023

A lot can change in a year…

Nov 8, 2023

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Into the unknown...

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Dec 10, 2019

Who lives, who dies, who tells your story

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Danielle 6/1/21 Danielle 6/1/21

Love what you love

“We all change, when you think about it, we're all different people; all through our lives, and that's okay, that's good, you've gotta keep moving, so long as you remember all the people that you used to be. I will not forget one line of this, not one day, I swear. I will always remember when The Doctor was me.”

Danielle 5/19/21 Danielle 5/19/21

I never liked the quiet before

Silence. It’s a weird thing. I always hated silence, always needed background noise no matter what I was doing. For some reason if things were too quiet it scared me. If I was sitting in a room with someone and they were talking, I would talk excessively just to fill the void. I would constantly be thinking, “Why are they talking? What are they thinking about? Are they mad at me?” The one exception to that is my dad, but that’s a story for another day.

Danielle 5/11/21 Danielle 5/11/21

PTSD & Triggers

**Trigger warning: this post will talk about triggers for various things. If you are easily triggered, please proceed with caution or just skip this post** Last night I was forced to sleep on my couch. This has happened more times than I can count in the last couple of years but it wasn’t until last night that I realized why it bothered me so much. Sure anyone is going to be annoyed if they can’t sleep in their own bed in their own apartment, but for me it’s more than that. Having to sleep on the couch, I realized, is a trigger for me. When I was with my ex I spent many nights on the couch for various reasons. If I couldn’t sleep I went out to the living room to avoid waking him up. If we were fighting I was often the one who slept out there… and so on.

Danielle 5/3/21 Danielle 5/3/21

Birthday History 101

It’s that time of year again. The time when I look back on all the May 20ths that have come and gone, the ones that left me in tears, the ones that left me asking, “why?” Yup… it’s birthday time again. Last year I mentioned, very briefly, my history of bad birthdays but I didn’t go into specifics. This was pre-book so I think I was still keeping myself fairly guarded. However, the time for that is gone and it’s time to dive into this history. It’s a bit of a rollercoaster, though. Are you ready?

Danielle 4/27/21 Danielle 4/27/21

Confidence and setbacks

I woke up this morning feeling a terrible lack of confidence in just about everything. Magnus is still sick (back to the vet today) so I’m feeling like a subpar cat mom. I’ve been struggling with book sales for 2 straight months now which will be a blow to anyone’s confidence. I think there’s a part of me that fears I’ll always just be substandard at everything. There are those that excel at things and really hone in on that one thing they’re really good at, and I’ve never been able to find that “thing.”

Danielle 4/12/21 Danielle 4/12/21

Between a rock and another rock under miles of ocean

Every time I think I’ve finally gotten myself over a really difficult hill, I find that I’ve really just been resting on a plateau and there’s still more to climb. I don’t fall backwards but all I can see is the towering mass in front of me that’s waiting for me to conquer it. That’s about where I am right now.